Surgery went as well as it could've and I am making a full recovery quickly!

Ok basically, it was a ginormous ovarian cyst, about 10 x 9 x 11 inches. Before the operation, I weighed about 108lbs, and after the operation, I weighed 100lbs, meaning that if the scales at the hospital were both accurate, the cyst was about 8lbs. It was crushing my intestines into a small corner of my abdomen, and flattening and bending my bladder and uterus slightly outward in a weird way. It had also just started to crush one of my kidneys, which would not have been good. We already knew all that, I just don't like publicly sharing details of situations until they are over. It unfortunately was not one of the cool cysts that have teeth and hair and whatnot. It was a chocolate cyst, which means that I likely have undiagnosed endometriosis. This does not surprise me in the slightest. I also had to lose one of my ovaries and a fallopian tube, which I'm not really broken up about as I care not for my fertility. I am left with a really cool looking vertical scar on my abdomen, and, funnily enough, I've been glued back together. Post-op, I feel like I have a new lease on life. My organs have so much more room to breathe. My body looks like how it's supposed to instead of like a pale cartoonish mockery of a human being. My belly button no longer looks scary and purple. And I don't get hot flashes anymore! But it's gonna take a bit of getting used to how my body's supposed to work, because to say the least, my body worked very strangely when the cyst was in it. Well, now I can have my life back!

How did it get this bad in the first place though? There's really no one else to blame for this but my parents. I've had symptoms of endometriosis for years, with excruciatingly painful periods that started in high school. In Ohio, you can't seek medical care as a minor without your parents' permission, and my parents did not want to get me care for this when it started being a problem.

Yeah, I guess I could've gotten treatment for this at age 18, or 19, when it got bigger, but I was unable to trust people enough to treat me at that time due to what I had been through. Also, despite knowing about endometriosis, I did not know about chocolate cysts (let alone that they could become life-threatening if they got as big as mine; to be fair, they usually don't get THIS big, though). I also did not have much experience with navigating the medical establishment (the last time I had been to the doctor was when I was 16 to get diagnosed with autism; before that, I had only been to the doctor to get vaccinated and did not get checkups). I was concerned that my symptoms would be written off like my parents wrote them off, rather than treated. I didn't want to get charged for the services even without getting treatment.

Unfortunately, I asked the doctor who removed the cyst, and there is no way to medically determine how old a cyst is. My parents neglected me to the point I needed a major abdominal surgery, and they are likely going to get away with that, too, because it would be their word against mine. This entire situation could've been prevented if it wasn't for parent's rights being valued over a child's right to life and limb by the law. The laws of this country are the main problem enabling people like that to harm children, but I digress.

That situation isn't ALL drab, though. I am low contact with my mom and no contact with my dad since 2022. They don't deserve to be anywhere near me. I am living a happy life with a few loving partners, a great job that I absolutely adore, an ebike, choices, autonomy, money, healthcare, a bright future, a strong support system, enough healthy vegan food, and a safe place to live. My mom text messaged me because she heard from my grandma that I was getting a surgery. I asked her how her and my brothers are doing, and she ghosted me. 😭 She ghosts me every time I ask this question, because she doesn't like when I leave my dad out of our messages. That's why I keep asking her that. I want both my parents to know that I won, and thus, if they want to communicate with me, they need to do things on my terms. Also, it's funny. We do a little trollin! 😎

April is both my birth month and National Child Abuse Prevention Month. I am planning to make a post on my website with things that can help abuse victims, from my own experience. I will also be updating my website to make it have all sorts of cool stuff, as well! I've already added some new things, but nothing super crazy. And maybe I can release Silent during the month of April as well, but we'll see about that. I mean, I did just get cut open, maybe I should be taking it easy, even though I do heal pretty quickly and have a high pain tolerance.

Thanks for reading, and sticking around! You have a wonderful day/night, see ya around! 😁

- John Maduin

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TLDR: Surgery success! Recovery going good. It was a chocolate cyst and I likely have endometriosis. Also, I am living a great life without my stupid parents, whose medical neglect of me is likely the reason I needed such an invasive surgery in the first place. April is both my birth month and National Child Abuse Prevention Month, so I will be making a resource on my website for abuse victims. I will also be making my website very cool and fun. Already edited it a little bit, but nothing too crazy! Silent during April, maybe? Dunno, we'll see! Thanks for sticking around, have a nice day/night! 😁